Author Archives: Lateefah Wielenga, Ph.D.

Self Love

Finding Self-Acceptance

girl looking in the mirror and loving who she sees

Fear doesn’t have to control us. We all experience fear and anxiety in certain situations, some more than others, but it is our self worth and how we think about ourselves that drives us. We have talked before about the Four Components of Self-Love and how honesty, faith, trust and courage helps you realize who are, and love that person. Well now we are going dive a little deeper into each of these things to understand how they will bring you closer to finding self-acceptance.

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Self Love

Four Components to Self-Love

Many times, we just can’t wait to delve into a relationship.  You don’t want to wait.  You want instant gratification!  Right?  Have you been that person?  Does this sound like you?  Do you want to be in a relationship so badly you can taste it?  Well before you jump in, make sure you have your bases covered with these the four components to self-love.

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Romantic Relationships

Avoid the Honey Jar

Jar of Honey - Avoid the Honey Jar

Two keys to a successful relationship are patience, and communication. If you’re in a relationship ask yourself if you’re patient. Do you have sufficient communication skills? It takes time to learn someone else. And when in a relationship that’s going to grow, it’s imperative to communicate openly. Jumping into a serious relationship too soon, may cause unnecessary complications. Love is sweet, but it can be sticky – like honey.

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Romantic Relationships

Be Kind to Your Partner

Couple hugging each other - Be Kind to Your Partner

So many things can happen in a day that can change your life forever. The decisions you make are lasting ones. You may not think about the consequences when you’re behaving in a certain way (positive or negative), but the effect is always permanent until it changes. My suggestion to you is to be kind – to yourself and to your partner.

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Romantic Relationships

The 5 Second Flirt

woman smiling in coffee shop | 5 Second Flirt

Are you in a relationship? Do you have a special someone? …or, are you recovering from a breakup? If you’re feeling broken hearted because you’re single, and Valentine’s Day is almost here, you can begin to make immediate changes.

In this video I teach you the 5 second flirt rule. It’s fun, and you can find someone to spend Valentine’s Day with.

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Spirituality

The Laws of the Universe

In a recent blog I wrote about the law of attraction and creating your own reality. I’m not sure if you got a chance to read it, so I’ve decide to talk about it.

You’ve probably heard the saying “where your thoughts go, your energy flows.” Well that’s precisely what it means to create your own reality. What we think about we manifest.

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Spirituality

You Create Your Own Reality

Man using the Law of Attraction to create his own reality

Have you been listening lately? Keeping your ear to the ground? Have you felt the shift all around you? Not just politically, but everywhere? Well if you have, then you’ve heard about the Law of Attraction. That one, talked about Universal Law. There are at least 12 Universal Laws that I’ll list later, but the most talked about law is The Law of Attraction.

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Self Love

Achieving Intimacy Requires Self-Love

holding up a heart shape love yourself self-love

Recently I came across an article that I wrote in 2014 for the Long Beach Grunion Gazette called: COUNSELING KITCHEN: Achieving Intimacy Requires Self-Love that really inspired me this holiday season so I wanted to share it with all of you. It is about how it takes a person to love themselves before they can truly love someone else.

Self love is one of the most important ingredients in any relationship, and realizing that working on yourself is the first step in working on strengthening your relationship will help you find true intimacy faster.

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Romantic Relationships

Overreacting in Your Relationship: Understanding the Why

Overreacting and the power of touch

Overreacting is something we’ve all done before. Someone says something, or doesn’t have the right tone of voice and we get all bent out of shape. We’ve all done it. What was the reason you got upset?

Imagine this scenario. You’re enjoying a nice time with your partner, cooking dinner together, out on a date, or just spending time together at home.

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Romantic Relationships

The Art of Flirting

Happy couple flirting and kissing - The Art of Flirting

“First best is falling in love. Second best is being in love. Least best is falling out of love. But any of it is better than never having been in love.”  —Maya Angelou

Kate Jones, of Co-Operative Foods, commissioned a study that found couples start taking each other for granted three and half years into their marriage. The poll of 2,000 married adults indicated three years is the point where couples lose the dating buzz.

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