Author Archives: Lateefah Wielenga, Ph.D.

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Help! Knowing When to Ask For It

Last week the Coaching Kiva covered how to approach the issue of feeling stuck; this week
we are going to further expand on the idea of when you feel, “all is lost.” Whether the crisis
involves finances, relationship, or work -when is it okay to ask for help? The answer varies by individual, but the best practice
to pursue is to ask for assistance when you don’thave the tools, or the resources you need to solve the problem.
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Sex, Love, & Food: The inticacies of what’s delicious.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

CONTENT FROM THE BOOK

Colette walked into Tin Roof restaurant in Manhattan Beach. She liked the ambiance and the energy of the people.

“This place feels good to me” she said to her best friends Lauren and Pamela.

“I’m glad we made this decision.”

As they walked into the restaurant there was a bar to the left, many people were seated there for the wine tasting event.

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Feeling Stuck? Move Anyway

At some point in a person’s
life, we all hit that barrier.
What do we do? Keep
moving. Feeling stuck may
include, hating your job,
having relationship
problems, or living in an
area you’d rather not be.

 

The feeling of limbo is a destructive phenomenon – an unsettling feeling – like being in bumper-to-bumper traffic. You’d probably rather just stay home and not even face the lingering and weary sound of breaks and horns.

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Love is a Verb

Love, by definition, is the intense feeling of deep affection. However, it’s not just a feeling, it’s an action(verb). This week the Coaching Kiva is going to take you on a short walk on the beach, and talk about the myth of love, which causes many relationships to become dysfunctional. Love will make you happier than you’ve ever been, but if not approached with the understanding of reciprocity, Love can cause unpleasant, unforeseen, challenges.

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Making Up Sooner than Later

Somewhere in the middle of your long talks, silly jokes, and little fights, you fell in love with your significant other. To maintain this healthy relationship, you need to remember to never go to bed angry or upset. Some couples may find it easier then others, but the key is to not ignore the problem, and address it in a timely manner.

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Reconnecting with Your Partner

Society and social media tell us that when we lose our intimacy and connection with our significant other it’s time to move on; I’m here to tell you that this is wrong and it’s time to reconnect with your partner. A relationship is a product of intimacy (not just sex), trust, and ALOT of work.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs (love and belonging) teaches that neglect, past relationship problems, and ostracism can affect individuals’ abilities to form and maintain relationships.

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Unhappy and Dissatisfied With Life

Are you waking up in the morning wishing there was more? You have the car, the perfect marriage, and even that great job, but something is missing. As human beings, we crave to have a sense of belongingness, but how we achieve it varies per individual. There have been various studies conducted on how people achieve fulfillment in our lives. For many people they choose a religion, others money, and some even future aspirations; though there are three commonalities within these.

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Self Perception: How to Believe in Yourself

Self-perception of oneself plays a major part in your self-worth. For the past 8 years, I have struggled with short-term memory loss from a traumatic brain injury from my childhood. This became my crutch of feeling not worthy or “good enough” to pursue my own personal goals and ambitions.  

I was scared to pursue my ideal career or to go to school and get a degree; in my eyes, my life was over.

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Happy Couples: How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy

 

Romantic relationships are important for our happiness and well-being. Yet with more than 40 percent of new marriages ending in divorce, it’s clear that relationships aren’t always easy.1 Fortunately, there are steps you can take to keep your romantic partnership in good working order.

Talking openly

Communication is a key piece of healthy relationships. Healthy couples make time to check in with one another on a regular basis.

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Is This Really Happening

 

Having a little more spice in our relationship is always good, right?  Well, I’ve decided to give you a gift.  A FREE 5-Day Mini Course called, Reignite Your Relationship! Sometimes even the best relationships could use an extra spark.

So, let me ask you…

  • Does your lover sometimes feel more like a roommate?
  • Do you feel like you’re not getting the attention you need from your partner?
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