Author Archives: Lateefah Wielenga, Ph.D.

Spirituality

The Laws of the Universe

In a recent blog I wrote about the law of attraction and creating your own reality. I’m not sure if you got a chance to read it, so I’ve decide to talk about it.

You’ve probably heard the saying “where your thoughts go, your energy flows.” Well that’s precisely what it means to create your own reality. What we think about we manifest.

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Spirituality

You Create Your Own Reality

Man using the Law of Attraction to create his own reality

Have you been listening lately? Keeping your ear to the ground? Have you felt the shift all around you? Not just politically, but everywhere? Well if you have, then you’ve heard about the Law of Attraction. That one, talked about Universal Law. There are at least 12 Universal Laws that I’ll list later, but the most talked about law is The Law of Attraction.

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Self Love

Achieving Intimacy Requires Self-Love

holding up a heart shape love yourself self-love

Recently I came across an article that I wrote in 2014 for the Long Beach Grunion Gazette called: COUNSELING KITCHEN: Achieving Intimacy Requires Self-Love that really inspired me this holiday season so I wanted to share it with all of you. It is about how it takes a person to love themselves before they can truly love someone else.

Self love is one of the most important ingredients in any relationship, and realizing that working on yourself is the first step in working on strengthening your relationship will help you find true intimacy faster.

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Romantic Relationships

Overreacting in Your Relationship: Understanding the Why

Overreacting and the power of touch

Overreacting is something we’ve all done before. Someone says something, or doesn’t have the right tone of voice and we get all bent out of shape. We’ve all done it. What was the reason you got upset?

Imagine this scenario. You’re enjoying a nice time with your partner, cooking dinner together, out on a date, or just spending time together at home.

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Romantic Relationships

The Art of Flirting

Happy couple flirting and kissing - The Art of Flirting

“First best is falling in love. Second best is being in love. Least best is falling out of love. But any of it is better than never having been in love.”  —Maya Angelou

Kate Jones, of Co-Operative Foods, commissioned a study that found couples start taking each other for granted three and half years into their marriage. The poll of 2,000 married adults indicated three years is the point where couples lose the dating buzz.

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Self Love

4 Tips to Get Through Thanksgiving This Year

thanksgiving dinner party

I’m about to head to the grocery store to pick up five large yams, or sweet potatoes; sometimes I use both. Each year my friend and her husband host a fabulous Thanksgiving feast, and most of the guests bring a side dish. Needless to say, I bring the candied yams.

Thanksgiving is the time of year when we gather with family and friends to give thanks for all we have, and everyone we love.

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Romantic Relationships

3 Signs Your Relationship Needs A Refresh

couple on couch that needs a relationship refresh

I think it’s safe to say we have all experienced difficulties in our relationships.  One of the reasons being, we are individuals with our own views, thoughts and feelings and are not going to always agree with the person we love.

When we find ourselves against a wall of discomfort and don’t know how to handle or communicate our feelings, we may want to walk away from the relationship.

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Romantic Relationships

Dating Trials and Errors

Couple on a date - Dating Trials and Errors

Last week I started this story and gave you 6 tips for getting back in the dating game that I learned when I started dating again after a bad break-up. If you haven’t read that yet, I suggest you go back and read it now.

Needless to say, the online dating scene didn’t quite work for me, so I removed my profile and resumed my life.

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Romantic Relationships

6 Tips For Getting Back in the Dating Game

First date over coffee - starting to date again after a break-up

One of the reasons I became a relationship coach was because of a painful break-up that I experienced which triggered a devastating illness. Once I found my way back to physical, and emotional health, I spent years researching and interviewing people about relationship issues.

This gave me real insight into my own behaviors and helped me realize that most of the problems I’d faced in my former relationship plagued many other relationships as well.

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Romantic Relationships

Are You Struggling because of Infidelity?

Couple struggling because if infidelity in the relationship

When you were a child, did you ever see the cartoons that included two little characters that were supposed to be depictions of our conscious? One donned a halo, and the other had horns. They would sit on each shoulder of the character that got caught in a dilemma.  Do you remember?

I’m bringing this to mind because, although we are no longer children, and we know right from wrong, those little cartoon characters remain with us.

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