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The Kiss Test

I’ve not written a blog post since last year.  While organizing my business and figuring out how to serve you well, I’ve decided to post the article that you seemed to like most.   I hope you enjoy it as much as you did last year.  🙂 

 

 

Remember the Kiss Test?  If not let me refresh your memory.  A relationship coach who helps men learn how to date women came up with this. 

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It’s A Matter Of Choice

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Last year at one of my events I talked about our emotions and how we control them.  I said controlling our emotions is almost a simple as selecting a different pair of shoes.  I read this article today, and I thought I’d share it.

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/08/30/we-are-responsib

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You Know It’s Over: So Why Are You Hanging On?

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Most people want to be in an intimate relationship.  It does something for their psyche.  It makes them feel safe – a part of someone – a part of something that allows them to feel they’re invincible.   Having a partner or a spouse usually satisfies at least three of the Six Human Needs, which are Certainty, Variety, Significance, Love/Connection, Growth and Contribution. 

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It’s All A Misunderstanding!

 

 

 

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Couples come into my office with the complaints of feeling misunderstood, taken for granted, and unappreciated.  Some report feeling isolated or ignored because their partner has shut-down. When you feel that your partner doesn’t understand what you’re saying, many times it’s because you aren’t conveying your message in the language they speak.  It can sound to them, like you’re speaking Tagalog when they speak English.

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How’s Your Sex Life?

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How’s your sex life?     No – really.   How is it?

Are you compelled to take another look when your man or, your woman walks by because they are so sexy to you?  Do you still desire their touch?  Does the way they smell make you want to get closer?  Think about it.  How is your sex life?

The Seed That’s Planted

Did you notice I didn’t ask about your love life? 

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5 great ways to celebrate St. Valentine’s Day!

 

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I was walking away from my computer when it dawned on me, this Sunday is Valentines Day!  So I’ve decided not to write my actual blog post.  Instead I’m going to suggest five cool and easy ways to spend this Sunday, which happens to be Valentine’s Day.

  • Have brunch at Claire’s which is located at the Long Beach, CA Museum of Art.
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IS THERE A REASON FOR THE CHANGE? PART III

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By now you know there are many reasons why our friendships change once one of the connected units gets romantically involved.  It usually
has nothing to do with the close bond that’s been formed over time, but
all to do with the new energy that has arrived in the life of our friend.
We are all aware that when love enters our world, it is totally
consuming. 

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John Lee’s six types of love

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“Love is a wildly misunderstood although highly desirable malfunction of the heart which weakens the brain, causes eyes to sparkle, cheeks to glow, blood pressure to rise and the lips to pucker” Anonymous

John Alan Lee is a 20th century Canadian psychologist who proposed the idea that there are six types of interpersonal love (three primaries and three secondaries). In his 1973 book entitled, The Colors of Love, Lee explains the six love types and assigns a color to each.

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Is There A Reason For The Change? Part II

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Last week I wrote about how friendships shift, once marriage or a romantic relationship enters the equation.  I know you didn’t think things were going to remain the same forever, but you probably didn’t have a clue that things would be shaken up like this!  Even though your world is now different and the dust has settled, there are probably some aspects of your friendship that you would like to hold on to.  

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