I know –She’s just what you’ve always dreamed of. He’s your soul-mate, and the two of you are meant to be together. Living together seems like the next practical step, right?
Before you consider moving in with your partner, first ask yourself why you want to live together.
Passion and insecurity are sometimes the reason why couples move in too quickly. Research shows that over the last 50 years, cohabiting without being married has grown over 900%. There are more couples that are “testing the waters” before plunging into a lifetime of marriage.
Then there are the couples who are split because one of the units wants to live together, and the other is okay with the way things are.
Research done by Kuperberg shows that those who are committed to cohabitation, or marriage between the ages of 18 and 19 have a 60% rate of divorce, and 40% between the ages 21 and 22. The rate drops down to 30% when couples are over the age of 23.
Con’s of Living Together
- Broken engagements
- Increased pressure to marry
- Premature familiarity
Since the 1970’s, there have been various studies providing evidence that living together (premarital relations and living status) can undercut a couple’s future happiness. The average couple who lives together before they are married have a 33% higher divorce rate than couples who wait to say their vows.
Pro’s of Living Together
- Financial stability
- No pressure for more
Living together can offer many comforts, such as companionship, financial stability, and the ease of mind of not being pressured into something; but the problem-as research suggests- is that young people jump into marriage without consideration and realization of what it consists of.
Marriage consists of time, devotion, patience, passion, and most importantly a foundation of friendship. Marriages, like any relationship have their ups and downs. When a couple experiences strife, and rough patches in their relationship, they need to know how to rely on their love and friendship, as they are more than just lovers.
More Tips on Living Together:
- Think your decision all the way through
- Weigh the pros and cons of cohabitation
- Be honest with yourself about your reasons for wanting to live together
- Make sure you’re certain.