You had no idea it was coming, but Love wrapped you in its blanket the moment you set eyes on each other. Time seemed to stop – then things felt like they were going in slow motion. Yet, the clock was ticking and the journey began. You didn’t know where ‘this’ was taking you, but it was – and still, may even be exciting! Usually in the beginning of something new we tend to get excited. That’s because it’s a mystery. We want to discover all we can about the person that has activated such good feelings in us.
But then, things gradually begin to change. Once you’ve gotten to know your new lover, your vision’s gotten broader and now you can see they aren’t perfect. It’s called the law of familiarity. This law can lead to misperceptions about the people in our lives.
The Do’s of love and relationships
- Developing emotional connections
- Learning the little-things about each other
- Keeping the lines of honest communication open
Developing emotional connection
When living together, or spending a lot of time, make sure you value more than the physical aspects of your relationship. Make sure you cultivate the emotional connection. An emotional connection is making your partner’s needs a priority. Being emotionally tied can create a telepathic bond, giving each person access to the other’s heart. Developing this skill takes time and work; be patient with each other and listen.
Learning the little-things about each other
Pay attention. Be observant. Listen.
Keeping the lines of communication open
Are there goals you’d like to accomplish as a team? There’s a saying, that 95% of the things we worry about never happen. Our goals do not always work out. Creating a life plan together (embarking on the same journey) will strengthen individual efficacy and instrumentality. Focus on the days ahead, and form a strategy to achieve short-term and long-term goals: Taking a long vacation, completing a house project, or purchasing a home.
The Don’ts of Love and Relationships
- Never betray your partner’s trust.
- Playing on each other’s weaknesses.
Never betray your partner’s trust
If your mate trusts you enough to be vulnerable with you, don’t repeat what they’ve shared with you to anyone. Don’t even discuss it with them unless they initiate the conversation.
Playing on each other’s weaknesses
Instead of focusing on your partner’s weakness, start with emphasizing their strengths. When continually bringing up what he/she is doing wrong animosity takes over. A relationship can’t be improved by scrutinizing your partner and emphasizing their flaws. Be gentle and affirm your love for them.
Before you start over analyzing a situation and expecting the worse, think – “Is this really as big a deal as I’m making it out to be?” Instead of overreacting, express your feeling to them and let them know why you feel that way. Many misunderstandings are amplified by our fears and insecurities. Before taking the low road, ask yourself if it’s worth it.
When we find ourselves in the company of love, it’s our responsibility to nurture it, tend to it, and help it flourish. Happily ever after is possible if we pay attention and give 150 percent.