Thanksgiving was last Thursday and I can swear I’ve heard Caroling – already. I know it’s all in my mind but I also know this year is rapidly coming to an end. Wait – are those Jingle Bells I hear …?
There are only 28 days left in this year! We’ve got so much to do in such a short amount of time. I hope the turkey and pumpkin decorations are put away because we’ve got to prepare for the festivities of December. We get so preoccupied with all of the day-to-day that, we either forget about the man or woman in our life or, we intentionally avoid what’s going on in our relationship. Many couples go the entire year dodging the dreaded conversation that sometimes begins like this: “Sweetheart, we need to talk.” Or, “I’m not happy.”
Remember the old adage, see no evil – hear no evil – speak no evil? Well that usually doesn’t work in situations like our relationships. Someone’s not going to be satisfied. It makes sense to remove our hands from our ears, eyes and mouths because hearing what needs to be said, seeing what’s really going on, and speaking to the issues at hand will help the relationship. We are aware December is the month of celebrations and the giving of gifts, but did you know that January is claimed to be the month for divorce and break-ups. According to an article I read in The Huffington Post Tuesday morning, January is the month with the most legal divorces. The article also said husbands and wives who are disenchanted begin looking for information on divorce after the holidays.
So before we are forced to flip the hourglass, let’s remember that the approaching New Year is an indication of a fresh start. We can begin anew. Start all over again! I suggest we stop running away from our problems and look them straight in the eye. Don’t forget we created them and we have the power to remove/resolve them. Of course it will be a process, but it is definitely something that can be done. We can start by paying more attention to those who bring meaning to our lives. We can focus on the positive aspects of our partner and, we can begin to forgive. The tips below will help us remain in gratitude.
- Stop looking behind you because you’ve been there already. There is nothing we can change that lives in yesterday.
- Don’t look too far ahead, because you may miss this very day.
- Try as you might to stay here – in the present. We usually have everything we need in the
I think it’s time to get the chestnuts. They’ve got to be roasted on an open fire … J