Love, by definition, is the intense feeling of deep affection. However, it’s not just a feeling, it’s an action(verb). This week the Coaching Kiva is going to take you on a short walk on the beach, and talk about the myth of love, which causes many relationships to become dysfunctional. Love will make you happier than you’ve ever been, but if not approached with the understanding of reciprocity, Love can cause unpleasant, unforeseen, challenges.
Many believe Love is only a feeling, and when that feeling loses its intensity, the Love for their partner isn’t real. That’s not necessarily so. Sometimes you forget your partner also has needs, and desires. A successful relationship is based on reciprocity. Give and take. When someone’s not doing their share in a relationship, problems arise. When difficulties show up, you may begin looking elsewhere. Consequently, as much as you want to believe the grass is greener on the other side, it’s not. Start giving your partner the Love that you want, and see the goodness grow. “The best kind of Love is the kind that awakens the Soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.” (The Notebook)
Once the honeymoon phase wears off, people start to struggle in their relationships. Remember to be the man/women that your significant other fell in Love with. Love is a commitment, love is learning, love is soft and kind, but always remember – Love is a VERB!
It can be very tragic when people are willing to just walk away from healthy relationships when they face conflict. It’s time to change our expectation of what Love is, and dismantle this false cultural norm.
When you enter a relationship be emotionally available.
Be mindful of your expectations when beginning a relationship.
Love requires effort.
Remember that Love is grounded on trust, commitment, and time.
Love is the deepest part of our soul; it can sing, it can cry, but at the end of the day love is what makes us human. The action of love develops our hearts and strengthens our soul.