Ladies, this one’s for you.
Some of you may already know what men need to feel loved – but for those of you who aren’t clear on the matter, listen-up!
For many men, to be emotionally engaged in a relationship is a challenge. Expressing feelings and emotions is unchartered territory, since they’ve been taught not to express their emotions. That their role is to be tough, be in charge, and take control.
When men need to process what’s happening within the relationship and within themselves, many of them make it an inside job. Though you may feel left out, believe me – it’s not about you.
Five Things Men Need to Feel Loved
Whether you are in a brand new relationship or have been married for 15 years, these are 5 things your man needs from you to feel loved in your relationship.
Usually women are nurturers in a relationship, and they want to create a connection. Oftentimes the connection they’re attempting to create leaves the man feeling overwhelmed, as he needs time to first process information and feelings. He begins to feel pressured to make an immediate emotional connection, which leads to miscommunication and strife. Observe him and what he needs, you’ll be happy you did.
Although men are supposed to be strong and sometimes seem emotionless, that’s a façade. Society has placed pressure on men to play that role, when men – like women – need to feel loved and cared for. Most men naturally have the need to provide, but once that need is fulfilled, they need love.
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs theory says that for love and belonging to occur, first the physiological and safety needs to be fulfilled. Men need to be shown affection. Touch him, kiss him, and look into his eyes when you’re saying something complimentary to him.
Under the rigid exterior of a man, there lives a little boy who wants and needs to feel loved.
In 1967, when Aretha Franklin sang the song ‘Respect’ and made it a hit record, her voice wasn’t the only reason it did so well. The lyrics inspired women all over, to be more confident and take charge of their lives. But did you know it was originally written by Otis Redding, and about a man who will give his woman anything she wants, as long as she shows him the respect he feels that he deserves?
One of the ways you can make an emotional connection with your man is to clearly demonstrate you respect the decisions he makes (if you truly do), and respect his work ethics and accomplishments. When a man makes an effort to succeed, he needs your support. He needs to know that you respect him.
It’s not a rarity to hear men and woman say they feel like they’re speaking a different language. Sometimes they are, when they’re coming from their gender positions.
Men and women are different, and until you really get to know your partner, you’ll find yourself feeling like you can’t live with him, and you can’t live without him. You’ll understand your man better when you accept his maleness and appreciate that he’s different from you.
Let him be himself without criticizing. Remember there’s a little boy in him, and a little girl in you.
I put this last, despite the fact that it could have been first ?. Women feel love emotionally, while men feel love physically. That’s one of the first things they think about because that’s the way they’re made.
The primary way men feel loved is by having sex with the person they love, that’s how they feel connected. If you’re able to create the emotional connection you need, and giving him the physical connection he needs, everyone wins.