Is your relationship good, but you’d like to make it better? Has your lover become your roommate? – Or is your relationship in trouble and needs help saving?
If you’ve found yourself asking any of these questions you know you need help, but you may not be certain if you require a relationship coach or a relationship therapist? Let me help you decipher the two. While either coach or therapist may be of assistance, what’s happening in your relationship is what determines which will be the best choice for you
When the challenges you are experiencing interfere with your daily functioning, causing feelings of depression, anxiety or low self-esteem, then you need a therapist. In these situations the therapist will take the role of the expert, helping with your mental health needs. You will receive the tools you need to alleviate depression, deal with anxiety and heighten your low self-esteem, assisting you back to emotional stability.
If you and your partner are having difficulties communicating effectively, keeping the spark and excitement in your relationship, or need help getting through unfamiliar territory then a coach is the one for you. A coach sees you as the expert and acknowledges you have what it takes to make the necessary positive changes to accomplish your desired relationship goals. A coach helps the client create a strategy and a plan of action to realize the desired outcomes. You are also accountable to your coach for completing homework assignments, calling in when required and following the action-plan designed specifically for you. Since you are not suffering from any emotional challenges that are getting in the way of your day-to-day activities, you will see a relationship coach who will offer encouragement while working very closely with you as a partner until you reach your relationship objectives. Similar to a sports coach, I always use the Lakers former coach Phil Jackson, as an example for how I help my clients get on their desired trajectory. We meet a few times a week, via face-time, skype or text, we find the problem, discuss the desired outcomes, create a plan and take action to obtain the client’s vision.
When you realize things are not how you’d like them to be in your relationship, call someone immediately. A relationship coach or a therapist; either one can help you work things out.