Self Perception: How to Believe in Yourself


Self-perception of oneself plays a major part in your self-worth. For the past 8 years, I have struggled with short-term memory loss from a traumatic brain injury from my childhood. This became my crutch of feeling not worthy or “good enough” to pursue my own personal goals and ambitions.  

I was scared to pursue my ideal career or to go to school and get a degree; in my eyes, my life was over. I was unable to create healthy habits and was not goal directed. Unable to push past my comfort zone, I was too shy to talk to women, I had a hard time making new friends, and I had no sense of a command presence. Though I have moved forward, I still have these self-doubts; but how I approach this feeling of doubt is what defines me.

The Approach

To start, you need to realize that you will fail, but failure is not the end; it is the beginning. How do we learn something is Hot? Ods are your mother told you not to touch the stove, but through the experience of trial and error, you learned to take proper precautions while handling the hot pan.  Like the hot pan, if you do not handle life correctly you will get burned. Failure is natural, and everyday is a new day and opportunity. If you let failure consume you, then you will not grow. To conclude, you need to put yourself out there and tell yourself it’s okay not to be perfect.  


It takes 21 days to create a new habit. Now it is time to put what I have talked about to the test.

  • Push past your discomfort and get out of your comfort zone
  • Put yourself out there and make yourself emotionally available
  • Do not listen to the non-constructive negative feedback
  • Learn to trust yourself by being confident in what you have to say
  • Put yourself into unfamiliar situations
  • Learn through your mistakes that it is okay to fail


By exposing yourself to repeated galling and wearisome settings, it will create a stronger you; a you that is more capable then you could imagine.

Your Bridge to a Life of Satisfaction and Fulfillment,

The Coaching Kiva

By Paul Newcombe

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