“First best is falling in love. Second best is being in love. Least best is falling out of love. But any of it is better than never having been in love.” —Maya Angelou
Kate Jones, of Co-Operative Foods, commissioned a study that found couples start taking each other for granted three and half years into their marriage. The poll of 2,000 married adults indicated three years is the point where couples lose the dating buzz. The couples in the poll prefer sleep over sex, and stop saying ‘I love you’. The research also showed after three and a half years, cuddling up on the couch together, going to bed at the same time, and eating dinner together became a thing of the past.
Physical intimacy is usually the first thing to go when a couple’s going through a rough patch. When things aren’t working in the relationship, there are three things happening. First there is a communication breakdown. Then one, or both of you shut down. Finally, there’s no sign of love to be found.
And during this time, undoubtedly one of you is thinking, if not saying aloud, ‘don’t touch me’. But I’ve got a surprise that can assist you when you’re coming out of your funk, and you’re ready to make-up. It’ll keep the spark alive, and the disagreements to a minimum.
Flirting Your Way Back to Romance
Just because this case study draws this conclusion, doesn’t necessarily mean this is your fate. Those statistics don’t have to include you and your lover. You can be the exception. But if you feel your relationship is headed in that direction, you have to bring it back on course.
Earlier this year I posted a five-day challenge for my Facebook group, Kiva’s Corner: Bringing Light to Your Relationship. The challenge was called Reignite Your Relationship. Each day offered PowerPoint slides to help the contestants improve their relationships. I thought this challenge important because it helped people see what they took for granted in their relationships, and how they could reignite the romance – rekindle the spark.
On the first day of the challenge, they learned to practice the art of flirting. Do you flirt with your partner? It seems that once people enter a relationship, they believe flirting with their mate is no longer necessary. Wrong! The same things you did when you first met your significant other, are the same things you must continue to do to keep the love alive. I’ve made the slides available to everyone so you can begin to bring the sexy back in your relationship.
Just click the button below for access to the slides, and if you do the simple homework, I promise you’ll see a difference.
I hope you enjoy, and let me know your results in the comments section.