The Effects of Loving Yourself


Self-confidence, self-worth, beauty, and happiness gravitate inside-out from our souls. A flower is not beautiful because it’s flawless; it’s perfection comes from the days of growth and development. To create the perfect flower entails pruning and giving it nourishment. A person’s physiological and spiritual self is a lot like flowers; requiring much finesse and care. Can the forest of birds be heard if there’s no one listening? Can a hurting heart open up to another?

We are in a world where people have been taught to put others first, but one must love his neighbor as he/she loves himself. This is a simple way of saying, before one can help another, they must help themselves.

Put Your Needs First

To be able to have loving relationships with others, you must first have a loving relationship with yourself. When you don’t love yourself, you are dismissing the importance of your own needs. Self-love begins with identifying your needs first, and making them a priority in your life. Doing what you feel is right for you, and not succumbing to the expectations of others or society. When you begin to put yourself first, self-confidence will follow, which leads to self-love.


Loving yourself pushes you to take care of your needs. By learning to give to yourself what you deserve, you start to develop into the person you want to be. You can celebrate the beauty and freedom of being true to yourself, gaining a familiar sense of who you are. This feeling of self- worth gives off an in toxifying aroma that will attract others who share this gift.

You Can See

The effects of loving yourself will allow you to identify what’s healthy and what’s not healthy for you. You’ll gain the clarity you need to understand who you are. “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ( Thich Nhat Hanh)

Be proud of who you are and don’t let other’s animosity and prejudices cloud your self-perception. Never underestimate yourself. Without self-confidence, there is no self-worth; without self-worth, you won’t feel the beauty life is offering.


Would you answer these questions?

Are you loving yourself?

Do you put yourself first?

Do you believe you matter?

(If you’re experiencing these problems, call a professional.)

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Article by Paul Newcombe
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